Healing Grief And Loss

IADC Therapy

Grief. If you’re looking here, my guess is you must be going through something really difficult. I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief can cause feelings of isolation, loneliness, intense sadness/depression, guilt, anger, lack of energy, anxiety, and loss of hope.

Using a gentle, compassionate counseling approach along with a specialized modality called IADC® Therapy, I help clients move through grief and feel a renewed sense of hope, peace, well-being, and open heartedness.

IADC Therapy

IADC® Therapy

As a left-brained, former corporate executive with a Northwestern MBA, I never would have imagined myself working with grief using the IADC approach. Much to my surprise, it’s now one of the most powerful and most meaningful healing modalities I use.

The foundation of IADC is a therapy called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). EMDR is a well researched therapeutic technique that is proven to  significantly increase a sense of well being and decrease the pain of post traumatic stress, grief, loss, and other difficult feelings.   

I became intrigued with IADC while using EMDR therapy to help a client work through long lasting grief as a result of a difficult relationship with her mother who passed away a few years prior.  During the session, the client surprisingly reported to me that she felt her mother’s presence next to her on the couch. She said that she felt her mother apologize for the relationship strife, and felt her mom smile and communicate her love, understanding, and approval. The client went on to describe a feeling of peace, open heartedness, and resolution of their acrimonious relationship. This client’s remarkable experience and healing transformation exceeded anything I’d witnessed up to that point in my career.

I subsequently investigated and found that Dr. Allan Botkin, a Psychologist who treated war veterans suffering from PTSD in Chicago, had similar, even more striking experiences using EMDR. As a result, he developed a modified version of EMDR he called Core EMDR to help clients focus on and release sadness associated with the loss, making way for an ADC to occur. He called the process Induced After-Death Communication Therapy (IADC). I registered for a training with Dr. Botkin and learned how to help grieving clients enter into the psychological state in which these natural
perceptions of connection with deceased loved ones occur.

The experiences I’ve had using IADC are the most profound, deeply healing experiences I’ve witnessed as a therapist. I’m grateful to offer this extraordinary vehicle for healing grief.

The IADC® Process

IADC generally involves two to three sessions, the first two preferably on two consecutive days. It focuses on reducing the sadness associated with grief by using the Core EMDR protocol. Once a greater degree of resolution is achieved, a state of receptivity is then cultivated. In this state, many clients perceive a deep and loving connection with their deceased loved one. This is typically experienced through one or more of the five senses or through some other sense of perception.
IADC Results

IADC® Results

Botkin’s research shows that 75% of clients undergoing IADC Therapy experience a perceived ADC (After-Death Communication). These clients report receiving answers to their questions and reassurances of their loved one’s well-being. They report feeling a deep sense of connection with their loved one and a transformation in feelings of separation.

Notably, almost 100% of clients undergoing Botkin’s Core EMDR, whether they have experienced an ADC or not, report feeling significantly better and much more at peace overall with the loss. They also report coming away with a sense of resolution of unsettled issues in the relationship with the deceased.

Although most clients believe in the authenticity of the ADC experience, beliefs play no role in the effectiveness of the treatment. Hence, a client who believes the phenomenon is neurobiologically based, can receive the same sense of healing as one who believes it’s spiritual in nature. The therapy works equally well for those with modest grief as it does for those in deep psychological pain.

In addition to research already reported in the resources section below, new research on IADC therapy is currently being conducted in a control group design study by the University of North Texas with results from the study to be released soon.


*Botkin, A.L. and Hannah, M.T. (2013) Psychotherapeutic Outcomes Reported by Therapists Trained in Induced After-Death Communication. The Journal of Near Death Studies. Vol 81, No. 4, summer 2013.

*Hannah, M.T., Botkin, A.L., Marrone, J.G., and Streit-Horn, J. (2013) Induced After-Death Communication: An Update. The Journal of Near Death Studies. Vol 81, No. 4, summer 2013.

Botkin, A.L. and Hogan, R.C. (2005). Induced After Death Communication: A New Therapy for Healing Grief and Traumatic Loss. Hampton Roads Publishing Company.

*Botkin, A.L. (2000). The induction of after-death communications utilizing eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing: A new discovery. The Journal of Near Death Studies. Vol.18, No.3, spring 2000.

Botkin, A.L., Paddock, K., Lambert, D.F., and Lipke, H.J. (1998). The intensive trauma program (ITP) at the North Chicago VA Medical Center: A new approach to the treatment of traumatic memories. Presented at the Hines VA PTSD Outcome Symposium (September 24, 1998).

Lipke, H.J. and Botkin, A.L. (1992). Case studies of eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) with chronic post-traumatic stress disorder. Psychotherapy. 29, 591-595.

*Dalton, J.E., Pederson, S.L., McFarland, R.E., and Botkin, A.L. (1991). Profile of the PTSD personality research form. VA Practitioner, 8 (8), 61-66.

*Botkin, A.L., Schamltz, L.W., and Lamb, D.H. (1977). Overloading the left hemisphere in right-handed subjects with verbal and motor tasks. Neuropsychologia, 15, 591-596.

*Houston, B.K., Olson, M., and Botkin, A.L. (1972). Trait anxiety and beliefs regarding danger and threat to self-esteem. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 38 (1), 152-156.

*Research published in a peer-reviewed journal

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